CALM MAMA — CALM KID — CALM FAMILY
What parenting is really like...
Parenting is hard. Kids are difficult. Misbehavior sucks. The workload never seems to get done. It’s exhausting. Emotionally depleting. Confusing as hell.
You never know if you’re doing it right.
You lose your shit. Yell at your kids. Say mean things. Zone out on your phone. Give in when you know you shouldn’t. Act unnecessarily harsh sometimes. Aren’t consistent.
You fall in bed at night, absolutely exhausted, promising yourself that tomorrow will be different - better - but then you’re sucked right back into the same trap of repeating yourself 5 times, yelling, not knowing what to do.
You aren't the only one.
I have helped hundreds of moms who want to be calm, connected and gentle parents, but confusion, reactivity, and overwhelm keep getting in their way.
I’ve developed a simple parenting model that gives parents the “how-to guide” for gentle and connected parenting.
And I can help you too.
All that stands between where you are right now and the calm, connected and gentle parent you want to be are the tools you need to overcome the parenting hurdles in your way.
It's really hard to stay calm while your child is screaming, hitting, out-right refusing to listen, and totally melting down.
When you aren't great with your feelings... you yell, threaten, lecture, punish, bribe, act controlling, give in, randomly take things away and generally don't show up as the mom you want to be.
You need in-the-moment tools to regulate your own reactivity. Plus you need mindset strategies so you don't get activated in the first place. And of course, permission to take excellent care of yourself without guilt.
Most parents don’t know what to do after they ask their child “Are you feeling mad?” and the kid screams “YES!”
When your kids don't know what to do with their feelings... they don't listen, have giant meltdowns, get super moody and are generally more difficult to be around. Teaching kids how to manage their big feelings is hard to do when you don’t know what to teach them.
What you need is a simple way to connect with your kid's feelings, and tools to emotionally coach your kid so they learn to manage their feelings in respectful ways.
Setting firm boundaries without yelling or repeating is hard to do. Especially when you don’t use fear or manipulation to get kids to listen. It can be really confusing to know what to say to get your kids to listen.
Getting kids to listen requires that you follow through on your boundaries - but doing it the gentle parenting way means creating a shame-free, punishment-free environment. Not easy to do when you don’t have a model to follow.
What you need is a model for establishing limits and routines that gets kids to listen without repeating, reminding, rescuing, shaming or blaming. Plus, you need ideas for shame-free consequences that actually teach personal responsibility instead of just taking away the Ipad.
In The Emotionally Healthy Kids course, you get the parenting tools you need to validate your child's emotions, teach them better ways to express their emotions, set firm boundaries, while staying calm and connected to your kids.
The Emotionally Healthy Kids course is an 6 week group parenting program where you get simple solutions that actually work to improve your kid’s behavior and make being a parent easier.
This is the course for you if you want to practice gentle and connected parenting, but get stuck by confusion, overwhelm, and your own emotions.
How it works
Each week, a small group of moms will meet for about an hour on zoom. I’ll teach a concept or tool for about 30 minutes.
Then I’ll give you examples and scripts so you know how to apply these tools to your situation - whether that’s bedtime, screentime, sibling fighting, aggression, whining or name calling.
During the week, you’ll practice your new parenting tools and then come back to class and let me know how it’s going.
I'll help you fine-tune, tweak, and make a plan.
When you get stuck, you’ll be able to ask questions during the live session, or you can email me during the week.
By the end of the 6 weeks, you know what is needed to raise an emotionally healthy kid while staying calm and connected.
You’ll feel more calm, have confidence when handling misbehavior, and get back to enjoying being a mom.
In The Emotionally Healthy Kids course, you learn the Calm Parenting Process - a 4 step parenting model for every tricky parenting moment.
This one is all about YOU. You learn how to check in with yourself and calm your reactive stress response. We address why you get upset in the first place, and gives you simple tools to quickly move from overwhelm to calm.
This one is about your kid. Checking in with their feelings and giving them tools to manage feelings so they change their behavior from the inside out.
This one is all about behavior. Setting up rules and limits so your routines run smoothly and your home is calm. Learn to get your kids to listen to you, without you having to repeat yourself 5x, and giving them a bunch of reminders.
This is all about mistakes. Allowing your kids to fail and giving them opportunities to fix their mistakes and deal with the consequences of their actions in a loving, shame-free way.
I'm absolutely in awe of what you've helped me discover and so FREAKING grateful. I feel like I'm shifting everything for the better and releasing so much of what really doesn't matter but was causing drama before.
“Working with Darlynn transformed how I think about parenting. Our whole family life has more ease, even though we tackle tough topics more often. We just came back from a family vacation that was one of the best we've had. I'm a happy parent of two teenage girls! I recommend Darlynn's course to all my friends.”
Inside Raise Emotionally Healthy Kids You Get:
Live Weekly Class
This course is taught LIVE - one step at a time, week after week. It's not a recorded course. This is not DIY. The course is a "done with you" program. I'm personally walking you through the program.
The group is kept small, around 10 moms, so everyone gets a chance to ask questions and receive support.
The Calm Mama Handbook
A 100+ page digital e-book on how to calm your mind, coach your kids, and set limits that work.
Lessons, journal prompts, and exercises to make sure you are progressing and practicing what you are learning.
On Demand Daily Coaching
Using the "Ask Darlynn" form, you can get your parenting questions answered in between sessions.
You will not get stuck in this program.
You’ll have daily support.
2 Bonus Q&A Calls
These LIVE Mama Momentum group Q&A sessions give you a chance to check in and ask any questions that come up as you practice the Calm Mama Process.
The Calm Mama Process Online Course
Want to dive deeper on a topic presented in class?
Watch on-demand lessons, including scripts, tools and strategies to teach your kids what to do with big feelings, set limits that work and follow up with consequences when needed.
The Calm Mama Parenting Vault
Get exclusive access to online courses on specific parenting topics; like siblings, screens, and picky eating.
Meet Your Coach: Darlynn Childress
“Peace in my home is missing.” This is what I wrote in my journal when my son was 4 years old.
I was struggling as a mom so much back then. I was shocked by my rage, my resentment, my fear, and the sheer overwhelm of it all.
At my lowest point, I finally admitted I needed help. My decision to figure out a different way of being a mom led me on a twisty-turvy road of healing and learning and growing.
I get it. I've done it. And I'm here to guide you on your own twisty-turvy road of healing and learning and growing.
I do this work because I know the feeling of falling into bed at night, flooded with sadness, anger, disappointment, guilt and regret. I've been the mom who scares herself with the depth of her own anger and gets stuck in shame.
I started this program because I want to help every mom I can get out of her pain, sadness and overwhelm so she can enjoy her kids and get the peace that's missing.
I've been there, Mama. And I know exactly how to get you the peace and calm and hope and joy that you're craving.
Do you love reading all the nitty-gritty? Click below for a detailed outline for each section of the course.
Calm: Weeks 1 & 2
Connect: Week 3
Limit Set: Weeks 4 & 5
Correct: Week 6
When you join, you can see results like these...
"I have to say that the group is really amazing. Our kids are different kids now. Our family dynamic is different. I know there’s going to be lots of ups and downs and stuff to come but it’s really nice to not feel hopeless.”
"My daughter told me she’s proud of me for taking this class. I asked her why and she said, 'Because it shows you care about being better at being a mom. You yell less and when we are having big feelings or bad behavior you take us aside to work through our emotions.'."
“I LOVE being coached by you—it has truly made a huge impact in my life. I truly feel that the last few weeks—there has been a “shift”in my life, in the kids, how I parent… it’s been so so so GOOD—and something that I can see we have all benefited from. I can SEE and feel the benefits. Thank you so much.”
When making a decision like this, you might have questions like...
- Will this work if my partner isn't on board?
- What if I don't have a lot of time?
- Will I still get results if I miss a session?
- What age is this for? I have a tween/teen and I want to know if the examples will apply to me
- I've done a ton of personal work. How is this different?
- I'm scared...I want this but I have so many doubts.
Your questions and concerns are 100% valid! I want you to make the best decision possible.
Schedule a free consultation with me and I'll walk you through how the program works so you can decide if it's the right fit for you.Book A 25-Minute Consultation With Darlynn
The Calm Mama Guarantee
We offer you a satisfaction guarantee and will refund the entire amount paid by you if you—the parent—are not satisfied with the program within the first 15 days.